Short answer: Your radar chart shows what you are drawn to right now, not who you are forever. A big shape is not better than a small one. The two-person view looks for two things: how your roles complement each other, and where your interests overlap. Use the results to start a conversation, not to judge yourselves.
1. Your radar chart: shape, area, and peaks
Each corner of the chart is one of 12 dimensions, scored from 0% to 100%. People often ask:
- “My chart is small. Does that mean I’m boring?”
- “My chart has spikes everywhere. Is that too complicated?”
Neither is true. The chart reflects your current sensitivity and focus, and no shape is better than another.
- Peaked shape: You have strong, clear interests in specific areas, such as control with order, or sensation with restraint. You know well what excites you.
- Round, balanced shape: You are flexible and open to many styles. You are a natural explorer who adapts easily.
- Small overall shape: You may be more reserved, still exploring, or answering cautiously. It can also mean your interests lie in areas the test covers lightly. This is fine.
Your results can change over time. Retake the test after big life changes, or when you feel you have grown.
2. How the two-person compatibility score works
The comparison does not just ask whether you and your partner have similar scores. In fact, two people who are exactly the same can clash. For example, two people who both strongly want to lead may struggle over who sets the pace.
So the score has two parts:
- Role complementarity (power balance). We compare one person’s desire to lead, organize, or care for with the other person’s desire to trust, tease, or support. We also give weight to Switch tendencies, because they help balance the pair.
- Shared alignment. For areas such as sensation, restraint, instinct, or gentle traditional styles, we look for places where both people score above 50%. These shared interests are good starting points.
The two parts are weighted together into a compatibility index, along with suggested conversation topics.
3. How to read the overlay chart
When you place both charts on top of each other:
- Where both lines are high: shared interests. Talk about what you each enjoy there.
- Where one is high and the other low: a possible complementary match, or a gap. Ask questions and check how the lower-scoring person feels.
- Where both are low: an area you probably do not need to worry about, or that you can leave out.
- Big gaps: not a “problem,” but a signal to talk, listen, and go slowly. Never pressure the person with the lower score.
4. A score is not a verdict
Compatibility indexes are tools. They cannot capture trust, humor, history, or how you treat each other every day. A lower score does not mean a relationship will fail, and a high score does not guarantee success. Treat the number as a map, not a judgment.
5. Turn your report into conversation
Try these prompts together:
- “Which result surprised you most?”
- “Which area on your chart would you like to know more about?”
- “Is there anything on my chart that you would like to ask about?”
- “Are there any areas we both want to leave out for now?”
Keep it light, take turns, and remember that every answer is allowed, including “I don’t know yet.” Respect, honesty, and consent matter far more than any chart.